So have you been watching the new Marie Kondo show on Netflix? I watched the first episode and can’t wait to watch more! I have actually been using her method for a little over a year now and I can tell you that it totally works. I also read the book not too long ago, soooo good! I revamped my closet and I can tell you that 90% of the clothes in their spark joy and I wear them often. It is actually very freeing, because I no longer search for what to wear. Since I love almost every piece of clothing, all I have to think about is when I wore it last lol!
In my Martha Beck Wayfinder Coach training, we learned a coaching tool, called the The Living Space. It is where you mentally go through your house and see which areas you like and which ones you don’t. In the space that you don’t particularly like, she asks us to describe that space in detail, like what is in the room, what it looks like, if anything needs repaired and how it makes you feel. Can you think of a spot like this in your house? This space could be your closet, the garage or basement or any other room in the house. Really think about this space and jot down the answers to the questions I just presented.
One of my favorite quotes by Martha Beck is “Your surroundings are an expression of your inner state. You can’t change your life without changing your stuff and you can’t change your stuff without changing your life”. I love this quote because it really is true. Once I purged the clothes that no longer fit me, whether they were too big or too small or clothes that I just didn’t like anymore, it created space in my mind for me to love my body the way it is and also release negative thoughts about my body. I realized that those clothes and thoughts no longer served me, especially after doing the process multiple times. When I added back in items that I loved, it made me feel like a new person and I was open to new and positive thoughts about my body.
Now, think about the room you thought about earlier, can you find how the items in that room or closet reflect your inner life? Is there a fear coming up or maybe a negative thought? Think about what those items mean in your life. Do you need to purge or repair something? Also, think about what items you would add to the room that make you feel good and create positive thoughts.
I love this concept so much and think that our spaces really do reflect what is going on in our mind. Start with something small, you don’t have to do your entire closet or room all at once. One little thing can do wonders. Maybe start with your underwear drawer or your kitchen table, depending on the room you picked. Do those items “spark joy” and if not throw them away or donate! See how it feels in your mind once you get rid of something as well as adding to those areas.
I would so love to hear how this exercise worked for you! Please put in the comments what you learned. Or if something came that you want to talk about, feel free to contact me to set up a mini session, just go to my website at www.tashahazelton.com to sign up. Xoxo!