Do you ever feel like your energy is drained after you give your time to everyone else but yourself? I hear you; I have a daughter, a dog, a spouse, a full-time job and a side hustle. Sometimes I feel so overwhelmed by it all, but I have learned that I need to fill my cup with pleasure first and then it spills over to everyone else in my life, my husband, my kid, and my friends and family. You can’t function on an empty cup. It’s like driving on an empty gas tank, you aren’t going to get anywhere if you’re not filled up.
You may be thinking, what is this pleasure you speak of? I’m a mom and I don’t have time for any pleasure or self-care. Or maybe you’re thinking that pleasure is selfish. I’m here to tell you that it’s not! There is also scientific evidence that pleasure can help you lose weight. What the what, right? When you have more pleasure in your life, your cortisol levels (stress hormone) decrease and helps your digestion, which in turns helps you lose weight. You may have been told that you need more willpower when it comes to losing weight, which is not true. We really need more pleasure in our lives.
When I started the BARE process, I learned about this concept and was blown away. I had been taught that I needed discipline and strict calorie counting to lose weight. Heck, I’ve been on weight watchers twice and every time, I quit doing it, I always gained my weight back. Now I know why. My constant dieting was messing with my hormone levels and metabolism. My body was so out of whack.
Pleasure helps keep me sane and keeps my mind in check because dealing with a 3.5 sometimes is not what you consider fun. If you’re a mom to a little person, you know what I mean. Now I’m not saying that I don’t enjoy being and playing with my daughter, because I do. She brings me a lot of joy, but there are times when she can also stress me out. Asking for a snack right before mealtime, not wanting to take the dog out for a walk, or she’s yelling at me for some reason.
Pleasure for me is a daily routine. I get up before she gets up and I’ll do some Pilates in my home or take a walk outside. After my daughter wakes up, I spend quality time with her, we’ll play/watch a show or do something fun. In the afternoon, she takes a nap (sometimes lol, even if she doesn’t sleep, she’s still playing by herself quietly for the most part). While she naps, I’ll usually start on dinner or do some chores around the house. While I am doing these things though, I will listen to a podcast, listen to music or be listening to a book. I MAKE my chores more pleasurable. After naptime, we may play for a bit or take the dog for a walk. After she goes to bed for the night, I’ll either take a nice, long shower or take a bath and then put on some lotion.
Some of this may work for you and some it may not, everyone’s pleasure palate is different. Here a few other ideas to get you started.
Watching a sunrise or sunset
Petting your pet
Buying flowers for your home or office
Spritzing yourself with your favorite perfume
Wearing your favorite lipstick
Sitting outside on a sunny day
Watching a favorite show
Wearing a favorite outfit
My challenge for you this month is to look and see how you can add pleasure to your day. I encourage you to buy yourself a journal and write down some of your ideas. You could even break them up into categories, Free pleasure, $$$ pleasures, five-minute pleasures or one-hour pleasures. Let your mind go and see what you come up with.
I would love to hear your ideas in the comments!
See you next month!
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